Keys to Coping A
Blueprint for Stress Management
Keys to Coping A
Blueprint for Stress
Management
You sit with your hands clutched
to the steering wheel, your stress level
rising by the minute.
You have exactly ten minutes
before you have to get to the day care
center, and there’s an accident blocking
traffic.
After you pick up Jolene, you’ll
have to go to the supermarket, the dry
cleaner, and the library. Then it’s time
to rush home for dinner, bathe Jolene,
put her to bed, then collapse onto your
bed.
You may find that your days are
highly stressful and your nights might be
as well.
The good news is that there are
techniques you can use in order to bring
your stress level under control. One of
these is rehearsing your behavior. Say,
for instance, you are preparing for a job
interview.
You can role play, with your
spouse playing the part of the
interviewer and you portraying the
interviewee. In this way, you can
practice your answers to likely
questions.
Knowing what to expect in
advance can help you to control your
stress level.
Another effective technique is
to reframe debate. For instance, suppose
you have had a disagreement with your
co-worker.
You’re worried that you will
never be able to enjoy camaraderie with
your co-worker again. As a result, your
stress level has hit the roof.
You’ll be much better off if you
see the disagreement as a challenge you
must simply work your way through. Look
at the debate as a discussion between two
intelligent people.
Try your best to see the other
person’s perspective. In this way, you’ll
be engaging in problem-solving rather
than complaining, and your stress may be
reduced because of it.
Yet another stress management
technique you can use is learning to
control your anger. It is often not a
particular situation, but your reaction
to it, that causes your stress level to
climb.
When you find yourself becoming
angry, redirect your energy. Think of
something relaxing, such as a forest or a
seashore. Let the waves or the trees
carry your anger away.
The old
adage, "Don’t go to bed angry," is a
motto you should live by. The less
anger you experience, the less stressed
out you will feel.
You might also try to stop your
negative thinking. Whenever a negative
thought comes to mind, say "Stop!" to
yourself. Or imagine putting a stop sign
in front of your negative
thought.
The idea here is to put an end
to negative thinking to, in effect, put
it on the shelf so that you don’t have to
worry about it. You’ll be surprised how
relaxed you feel, once you stop engaging
in negative thinking.
Another stress reliever is to
find ways to boost your self-esteem.
Being hard on yourself can produce a
great deal of stress.
Once you recognize that you are
a person worthy of love, you will be
better able to cope with the stressors
that come your way.
Exercise is one route you can
take in order to feel better about
yourself. It’s a proven fact that
individuals who exercise have better
outlooks on life.
You may also want to set goals
for yourself. Perhaps you’ve always
wanted to knit. Now is your golden
opportunity.
Or maybe you’d like to run a
marathon by the end of the year. The
important thing is to set realistic goals
and to commit to them.
Once you reach your goal, you
will likely feel on top of the world. As
you make progress toward your goal, you
could find your stress level
subsiding.
Stress relief is an on-going
process. You can’t expect to reduce your
stress-level permanently in one day. But,
by taking the steps listed above, you
might find yourself better able to deal
with stress on a daily basis.
Remember that you may not be in
complete control of what happens to you
on any given day, but you can control
your reaction to it.
By focusing on the positive,
putting an end to negative thinking, and
setting goals for yourself, you should
find your stress level
declining.
With less stress to worry about,
you’ll find that life is more enjoyable.
Even that daily commute to the day care
center might become more
tolerable.
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